Rebirth

Change is inevitable. If there is one thing you can count on in this life, and in this world it is change. It affects every aspect of our lives. We can either fight it, surrender to it, or work with it. Or perhaps even make change work for us.

With change brings renewal. The ability to transform ourselves, and to reinvent yourself. In the process of reinventing yourself you may have to face the old parts of yourself, the parts of yourself that aren’t working.

Working out what is not working for you is fairly easy, once you know how. It starts by asking this question: “What do I want?”

Think about it. The things that you want are the things that you want, because you don’t have them yet. If you did, you probably wouldn’t focus on wanting them.

Once you have established what you want, you then must look at what are the things that are blocking you from getting what you want. This is where things can get tricky, because so many people like to blame their circumstances on the events of life, or their circumstances, or their own failings or frailties.

In this blame we actually have a key. If our blame is a reflection of our shame, what is our shame? That is; what is our personal take on how we feel about the things about us that we don’t like.

This is where people can get really knotted up. The solution is to learn to express our shame. To express the parts that we don’t like about ourselves. To admit our mistakes. To share our darker thoughts. To express our vulnerability. Rather than have to wear a mask of who we believe that we have to be in order to be accepted and even loved by others. And in doing so, not be our real authentic selves.

Thus, if we cannot express our shame, then we have to stay stuck in the old situation. In order to not then be exposed, we then have to recruit circumstances, problems, situations, obstacles, and events which prevent us from having what we want.

Imagine that. We actually recruit our own sabotage. We stay stuck in order to protect ourselves.

What we then actually bring to the party is our attitude. It might be true that there are some events in our lives that we are powerless to change. Loved ones dying for example. Like change, death is inevitable. How we approach death, or tragedy, or loss, or change, or even windfalls, fortune, opportunities, or even love… will determine the impact of it in our lives.

The invitation then is for the death of the old self, the death of the old way of being, the death of the old beliefs that no longer serve us for the new way forward in our lives.

I am facing such a time within myself. There is so much going on in my life right now, so much activity and change that is shaking up who I thought I was or could be. And as I look into the future for what I want and who I want to be, I realise that I must embrace massive renewal. I must rebirth myself from old beliefs, old habits, old self-sabotages to create something even greater.

Beyond Death lies Rebirth.